It’s day 1 of 365 for the year 2021. The past year has been a rollercoaster ride for all of us because of the worldwide pandemic caused by the CoVid-19 virus. We are all hoping for a better year ahead! I always tell my husband that we our blessed despite everything because our family is healthy and safe.
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To my firstborn — I miss you even you’re here with me.
Dear Ate Reilly,
I was staring at you as you sleep while I was feeding your baby sister. I remember not so long ago, we had quiet mornings of just you and me after Papa left for work. You hug me tight and kiss me good morning as soon as you wake up before asking if you have to go to school today. You fall asleep in my arms at night after whispering goodnight mom, i love you. I drive and fetch you to/from school. We had time to play during bath time. We have unplanned trips to the mall or to the nearby coffee shop to just eat, chat and bond.
It was a different story now.
When Eliana was born, I had fear that the love in my heart will not be enough for the both of you. But I was wrong. I love you as much as I love Ellie but it was my time and my body that I cannot split. Nowadays, you do things on your own. You wake up, wash your face, eat breakfast, take a bath alone with minimal supervision. We cannot take the bus and commute to the mall if we please, oftentimes it is Papa who goes with you and takes care of your needs.
I miss you. I miss our time together in the world of our own. I believe that we will just wait a little more time my Ate Reilly, and everything will go back as it was before. I am proud because we were able to train you before you became a big sister. But for now, let Papa hug you as you sleep.
Life of a SAHM (Stay-at-Home Mom)
It has been more than a year since I have been a full time mom. It is an entirely different experience from being a career woman for 13 years. I am thankful to my supportive husband because not all moms are given the chance to stay-at-home and care for their child. It was a long and hard decision for us because I am on the peak of my banking career and it would also affect our finances. But all things lead us to making that decision — we could not find a suitable househelper/yaya for Reilly and Gheoff got promoted.
The first few days of being a SAHM is very tiring. I usually start my day at 5am to cook breakfast and Gheoff’s baon then my day ends at 1am the following day. House chores are unlimited! Then I got used to it and was able to follow a schedule. Days passed and I was able to squeeze in working out at the gym while Reilly is in school. This kept me sane and became my ‘me’ time amidst all the house work.
Few months into being a SAHM, the biggest surprise of our life happened — I became pregnant with baby #2 without any medication (read: details on a separate blog)! I think this became possible because I got rid of work stress and I became active in working out. I also lost a few pounds which is good for PCOS individuals who are trying to conceive.
Being a working mom and being a stay-at-home mom has its own pros and cons and should not be compared as to which is better. Both moms do their work for the love and for the future of their family. My favorite part of being a SAHM is not having free time, but being able to take care of my family, spend time with my children and witnessing every milestone in their lives. Giving up my career in exchange of everything I have now is definitely worth it.
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