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Loyalty and faithfulness

Posted on by sherwinelaine

For me, it has always been a puzzling idea why there are some people who manage to cheat on their partners. It breaks my heart whenever I learn that a friend experiences it, and I really can’t think of any justifiable reason why the other party has to do it. 

  During the onset of dating and courtship, a person tend to put his/her best foot forward. As time passes, differences appear and this is where the conflict begins. The challenge is being able to accept each other’s differences despite and inspite every situation and how you will work it out to compliment each other, meet halfway and compromise. 

Once you commit into a relationship, you are bound to stay loyal and faithful to the other person. You have to learn how to resist temptations. Successful relationships are not smoothsailing. Problems and obstacles come and go. And these things make the relationship stronger. 

  
Oftentimes, people who cheat use the ‘it’s-not-you-it’s-me’ reason. Sometimes, they say they have fallen out of love or got bored. If you really love the person with all your heart, you will always find reasons and ways to love him/her more each day or how you will spice things up. 

So, to my friends who have been cheated, cheer up and thank God. Things happen for a reason. You should not regret anything just because you gave your all. You can find someone who will love you more than he/she loves you but that cheater cannot find anybody who will love him/her as much as you did.

Still, the bottomline is — regardless if you’re not happy with the relationship anymore or the other person has shortcomings, cheating is, was and shall never be an option.

PS. I am one lucky girl who have a husband who values loyalty and faithfulness the same way that I do. 😉

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On Motherhood

Posted on by sherwinelaine

For me, being a mom is the most wonderful thing in the world. I remember the moment when I learned I was pregnant with our daughter, Reilly. I am so overjoyed that I cried especially since my husband and I went through a lot to have a baby because I was diagnosed with severe Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). Having a child is really a blessing. Being a mom for more than two years (from the time I was pregnant) has taught me life’s greatest lessons as well.

 

Motherhood is beautiful, but it is not always easy. You will laugh. You will cry. You will become paranoid and upset. Looking at your newborn sleeping is heavenly. Going through the first weeks of breastfeeding is a struggle.

 

Motherhood is a lifetime commitment. I see myself guiding my daughter as long as I live. I know she will need me even if she will have a family of her own. I know it because when I became a Mom, that’s the time I realized that I need my mom more than anyone in the world to ask for help and advices.

Motherhood is a 24/7 job. Someone will be waking you up in the middle of the night to ask for milk. Never having to go night trips to the bathroom to pee without hearing a little girl cry at the top of her lungs. No matter how tired you get, you still have to attend to all of her needs. More than having a 9 to 5 job, being a mom entails giving all of your time to your little one. Even if it means never having time alone for yourself.

 

Motherhood is discovering strengths you didn’t know you had. I need to be strong for everything. She needs to see that I will be her source of strength too.

 

Motherhood is being selfless. It’s about not eating that last piece of fries because it’s her favorite. Telling her it’s ok to eat more of your food because you are already full even when you’re still hungry. Passing on a gathering with friends because no one will take care of your child. It means putting your child first before your own self.

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Lessons from Courageous Caitie

Posted on by sherwinelaine

Caitlin Soleil Lucas or more commonly known as ‘Courageous Caitie’ is a three year old girl who was diagnosed with JMML (Juvenile Myelomonocytic Leukemia), a rare cancer of the blood affecting infants and toddlers. She passed away last March 31, 2016 while confined at National University Hospital in Singapore.

I started following Caitie’s journey when I saw a friend share a link to her Facebook page. That time, her family is preparing to go to Singapore since there is no clear diagnosis of her sickness here in the Philippines. Since then, I have included her and her family in my prayers and I hope that she will be healed. Caitie’s story immediately found a place in my heart, maybe due to the fact that I too, am a mother of a little girl with almost the same age as Caitie.

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Courageous Catie (Photo from her FB page)

 

I was happy when Caitie was discharged from the hospital. I felt sad when I learned that she was confined again. I was really hoping that she will be well and recover in time. I know you may disagree, but I honestly felt the pain her parents are going through during those times especially Feliz’. It’s really hard for a mother to see her child suffer. As a mom, it’s the hardest part. If only you can take it all away from your child, you will. I salute them for keeping the faith.

It brought me back to the time when I gave birth to Reilly, my daughter. She was just a day old when she was confined in the hospital due to sepsis. I felt helpless since I just gave birth, via caesarian section, and I can’t do anything for my child. I prayed hard, asked Him to take care of my daughter. I know that He will not let anything bad happen to her. We waited long enough to have her. Reilly completed our family. My husband and I was so worried. The first time I saw her with an IV, my heart was shattered. How can a baby this small endure such pain?

 

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My daughter, Reilly Francesca


The moment I saw the post about Caitie’s passing, I was crushed. I cried and said a silent prayer. I was affected. I can feel the pain. I wanted to go home on that exact moment and just hug my baby. I asked why? She was so innocent and she deserved more years to enjoy her life. On the other side, I am happy for her. No more pain, no more tests, no more sickness to endure.

Caitie’s experience taught me to trust in the Lord. Everything happens for a reason, at the right time and place. I also admire how her parents, Jayjay and Feliz, handled the situation. I salute them for having the strength, most especially during those times that hope seems lost. I want to congratulate them for raising such a wonderful kid. If Caitie was here, I am certain that she will tell you that everything was worth it.